The Abortion Debate

One of today’s most controversial topics, the abortion debate pits the rights of a mother against the rights of a fetus. The most common, clear-cut stances on the issue are “pro-choice” and “pro-life,” which hinge on legal and moral considerations. Another common viewpoint is a more blended pragmatist view, which states that abortion should be prohibited except for specific cases. 

"Pro-choice" advocates stress a woman's right to choose whether and when to terminate her pregnancy. In their view, a woman should have absolute control over her own body and, by extension, over the survival of the fetus within her. The "pro-life" camp argues that life begins at conception and any termination of pregnancy after the formation of the embryo is equivalent to murder. 

One may deem abortion immoral, but does that necessarily mean it should be illegal? As with many moral debates, there is an underlying and perhaps more significant legal debate raging, especially in the United States. Roe v. Wade was a landmark 1973 Supreme Court ruling that is still relevant today. The Court voted 7-2 to overturn all state laws banning abortion. The Justices concluded that such laws violate a woman's constitutional right to privacy. Since then, the moral debate has taken on political significance. 

Alternatively, if abortion is morally permissible, does that mean it should be legal in all cases? In response to this question, there exist other viewpoints in addition to the clear cut “pro choice” and “pro life” positions. Indeed, proponents of each argument vary by degree. 

For example, some pro-choice advocates believe abortion is no longer morally permissible after the second trimester. Similarly, some pro-lifers allow abortion in extreme cases, such as rape or incest. Roughly two percent of pregnancies occur under these conditions. 

The abortion debate lends itself to a larger, overriding question: when must the government intervene in citizens' personal lives, and when must it avoid doing so? 

Drop your comment to join the abortion debate. 

Does Marriage Counseling Work?

When considering marriage counseling, it's difficult not to wonder whether seeing a marriage counselor will actually work. This article provides some objective information based on data obtained from a national survey of marriage and family counselors and their clients. Also presented are several interesting opinions provided by individuals who have actually been through marriage counseling and were asked to comment on whether or not seeing a marriage counselor proved effective in helping their relationship.

 An honest marriage counselor would agree that the motivation of a couple may be the single most important factor in determining the success of marriage counseling. It's unlikely that even a brilliant counselor would be able to save a marriage where one spouse has already decided upon a divorce, and a mediocre marriage counselor can probably help a couple who are utterly committed towards making their marriage work. With this in mind, research has been made in an effort to determine, on a more scientific level, the effectiveness of couples counseling.

 In an article published by Journal of Marital and Family Therapy, clients of marriage and family counselors from 15 different states reported on their experience with counseling. The findings indicated that marriage and family counselors treated a wide range of issues in relatively short-term

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Surprise Your Love

Has dating unknowingly become just a habit to you? Becoming not as fun and exciting as before, as when the both of you just started going out together? Well, I am not suggesting that there is any problem in your relationship. In fact this is something very common. Along time, as a couple get to know and understand each other better, they naturally enter into a comfort zone with one another. It is within this comfort zone that they begin to share with one another more of their own personal life, building a mutual trust and a stronger bond in the relationship. However, it is also at this time when all the surprises and excitements somehow get lesser and lesser during their dates. Both have got so comfortable with one another that there is basically not the need for them to impress one another as during their initial dates any more. Sadly, dating has become more of like a routine and habit to them. 

To most guys routine dates are actually Ok but again, things might not usually be the case for the girls. Hmm… maybe before I go on, just a piece of advice for the guys. Well guys, though the girls might not be complaining but believe me, deep down inside them they are still longing for that surprises. Let us not disappoint them, shall we? And well girls, please do understand that guys are after all still guys. They are just naturally less insensitive creature, just not that good in expressing themselves. But that doesn't mean that they don’t care about you? 

Get Married to a Guy You Can Have Fun With Forever

How often do your married friends complain about husbands who spend weekends on the couch watching games? 

Didn't they notice these guys were sports fanatics while they were dating? 

Did they think things would change after the wedding? 

Life is fraught with ups and downs, so it's critical to marry someone you can have fun with, today and fifty years from now. Here's how you can find that person: 

1. Write down a list of the things you like to do. Then do them. I have a theory that if all the singles who claim to enjoy long walks on the beach actually took long walks on the beach, they'd meet, get married, and the personal ad industry would collapse. 

If you like to read, hang out in a book-store. If the book-store has a cafe, become a regular there. If you like beer and bands, grab a friend and get to know the faces at a neighbourhood bar (take a cab; no drinking and driving, please). 

Do what you like to do. 

This technique worked for a good friend of mine. After discovering that his long time girlfriend had been cheating on him, he left her. Then he gave himself time to mourn and moved on...

Donald Trump - Think Like a Billionaire

'How to Balance Work and Romance'

"..Romantic pursuit should motivate you to be the best, to keep you growing and learning. they should be the basis from which you make a lot of your decisions in life. So, when it comes to balancing work and romance, 'I'm not a believer'. 

There should be no balance. Romance should simply propel you to work harder... This two hunger, for work and for romance, work together in successful people... Both are full-out endeavours, endeavours that depend on each other and should never get in the way of one another..."

Sex - Does Having More Make You Happier?

Sex is a key component of a happy, stable relationship—along with mutual respect, trust, and love, of course. So it makes sense that more sex would make a relationship even better.

But according to new research published in the Journal of Economic Behavior and Organization, that's not the case. For the study, researchers from Carnegie Mellon University recruited 128 healthy men and women between the ages of 35 and 65 and split them into groups: One group was asked to double how much sex they had in a week; the other was given no instructions on how often they should get busy.

The groups were observed for three months and reported on their relationship satisfaction at the beginning of the study, daily during the period of the experiment, and at the end of the three months. Here’s the crazy part: Researchers discovered that couples who had more sex actually had a small decrease in happiness. They also reported that they wanted sex less and enjoyed it less when they actually had it. But it wasn't the actual act of getting busy that was the problem — researchers found that being ordered asked to have sex more instead of getting busy whenever they wanted to was a turn-off.

HOW CAN I KNOW IF I AM SAVED? A SELF-TEST (Pt 1)

Since the evidence of genuine salvation is the presence of the Holy Spirit within the individual, how can this be verified? How can we be reasonably certain about ourselves, as well as others, without being guilty of judging? To answer this, let's take our own case first-there are several "tests" that we can take to determine His presence within us: (all Scripture quotes from Parallel Bible, KJV/Amplified Bible Commentary).

      1. Romans 8:16 tells us: "The Spirit Himself [thus] testifies together with our own spirit, [assuring us] that we are children of God." First and foremost, we have the unshakable testimony from within us! The indwelling Holy Spirit of God constantly reassures us that we belong to Jesus Christ.

      2. The entire book of First John was written as a "test" for determining the reality of salvation. Verse three of Chapter one tells us: "What we have seen and [ourselves] heard we are also telling you, so that you too may realize and enjoy fellowship as partners and partakers with us. And [this] fellowship that we have (which is a distinguishing mark of Christians) is with the Father and with His Son Jesus Christ, the Messiah." The fellowship enjoyed by genuine Christians is proof positive of

Today's Word - The Living Sacrifice

Romans 12:1 Therefore, I urge you, brothers, in view of God's Mercy, to offer your bodies as living sacrifices, holy and pleasing to God - This is your spiritual act of worship. 

When sacrificing an animal according to God's law, a priest would kill the animal, cut it in pieces, and place it on the alter. sacrifice was important, but even in the Old Testament God made it clear that obedience from the heart was much more important (1 Samuel 15:22, Psalms 40:6, Amos 5 21-24). God want us to offer ourselves, not animals, as Living Sacrifices - daily laying aside our own desires to follow him, putting all our energy and resources at his disposal and trusting him to guide us. We do this out of gratitude that our sins have been forgotten..

Why did your last relationship end?

Was it a battle over money and finances? Maybe your sex life flat-lined, or vanished altogether. Or maybe you just fell out of love. These are the generally agreed-upon leading causes for crumbling coupledom, but MSN.com recently reached out to top relationship gurus and found experts universally agreed that the leading marital torpedo is bad communication. They probed some other common relationship-killers, too.

Of course, Wayne and Wanda couldn't resist weighing in, especially since the experts' observations make for thoughtful consideration for anyone in a relationship, not just the married folks. Here we go: 

The experts said: The No. 1 problem in relationships is bad communication. This includes how people argue -- something that every couple does. But people should do it in a healthy way if they don’t want to jeopardize their partnership.

Wanda says: Irritations and disagreements can bring out the worst in all of us -- from door-slamming to silent treatments to screaming matches. But healthy couples generally argue thoughtfully and listen deeply. Can we always keep emotions out of it? Certainly not. We all go a little crazy sometimes and later regret flash-flood responses. When you’re part of a couple, strong communication includes disagreeing in a way that is mutually respectful and even productive.

Wayne says: Totally agree. Sparks and smiles might set a relationship in motion, but once the relationship is real, communication is the foundation of its long-term success. Yes, many other factors can smash a relationship, but good communication will keep most alive.

The experts said: Couples are at risk when they don’t have enough fun together. They lose touch with meaningful “date nights” and don’t nurture romantic and emotional connections.

The Evidence of what is called Salvation

God provided a way to bridge the separation caused by Sin. Jesus Christ, God's Son, is God's only provision for Man's sin. Through Him alone, we can know God personally and experience His love. 

• Christ Died in our place - "God demonstrated His own love toward us. in that while we were yet sinners, Christ died for us" (Romans 5:8)
• Christ Rose from the Dead - "Christ died for our sins... He was buried... He was raised on the third day according to the scriptures.... He appeared to Peter, then the twelve. After that He appeared to more than five hundred..." (1 Corinthians 15:3-6).
• Christ is the Only Way to God - "Jesus said to him, 'I am the way, and the truth, and the life; no one comes to the Father, but through me'" (John 14:6).

It is not just enough to know these truths. we must individually receive Jesus Christ as Saviour and Lord; then we can know God personally and experience His love. 

But to all who believed him and accepted him, he gave the right to become children of God. John 1:12

The Evidence of what is called SIN

• Humans are sinful. "All have sinned and fall short of the glory of God" (Romans 3:23).

Although we were created to have fellowship with God, because of our stubborn self-will, we choose to go our own independent  way and fellowship with God has been broken. This self-will, characterized by an attitude of active rebellion or passive indifference, is an evidence of what the Bible calls sin. 

• Humans are separated. "The wages of sin is death" {spiritual separation from God} (Romans 6:23). 

".... (Those) who do not know God and do not obey the gospel of our Lord Jesus... will be punished with everlasting destruction and shut out from the presence of the Lord..." (2 Thessalonian 1:8,9).

This sin, which is manifested in each of our individual lives, separates us from God's love and from an intimate relationship with Him. Such separation brings both earthly turmoil and eternal consequences.

Who do you Say I am?

"But what about you?" he asked. "Who do you say I am?" Peter answered, "You are the Messiah."

Mark 8 vs 29

Not every one accepts Peter's answer, but No one should avoid Jesus's Question; "Who do you say I am"?

How to Make Good Friends

First, have something in common, that's one recipe for a good friendship. friendship should be a bound that reflects concerns you have to invest yourself in the details of your friends' lives. otherwise, there's just no bond between you. and then there is the old saying "to have a friend, be a friend" well sometime there could be some selfish people, and their idea of a friend is for you to be everything they want you to be. the minute you step out of the role they've designed for you, watch out! you're a bad friend! it helps if your friends have a level of confidence equal to yours, which will eradicate any envy or jealousy they might otherwise have. 

How to be Married!

A good marriage is like negotiating an important deal. You have to consider all the factors thoughtfully and thoroughly. If you were investing a large part of yourself and your fortune into a venture, believe me, you'd make sure your thought about it for a long time first. That's how you should see marriage, it is serious and it is important. Enjoying someone's company is a big step in the right direction for marriage, and even though that sounds obvious, there are cases of people who simply don't enjoy each other's company. I believe strongly on the concept "The woman behind the man" or vice versa. This can only be applicable when there is a visible spouse available for partnership. Your spouse is your Business, Life and Spiritual Partner and once the trust of this partnership is broken both life, Business and relationship with the creator will face the worse economic melt down ever in existence. 

The Will of God; What to ask at the place of Prayer.

"He want to take what he created in the first place and use it for its intended purpose".

Leadership often involves reaction. If we want to react with instincts consistent with God’s will, we must develop habits of obedience to God. Consistent obedience to God is best developed in times of less stress. Then when stress comes, our natural reaction will be to obey God. In our age of lowering moral standards, we find it almost impossible to believe that God would punish Moses for the one time he disobeyed outright. What we fail to see, however, is that God did not reject Moses, Moses simply disqualified himself from entering the Promised Land. Personal greatness does not make a person immune to error or its consequences.  In Moses, we see an outstanding personality shaped by God. But we must not misunderstand what God did, He did not change who or what Moses was, He did not give Moses new abilities and strength. Instead, he took Moses characteristics and moulded them until they were suited to his purposes. Does knowing this make a difference in your understanding of God’s purpose in your life? He want to take what he created in the first place and use it for its intended purpose. The Next time you talk to God, don’t ask “What should I change into”? but “How should I use my own ability and strength to do your will”? Remember unto every one there is a gift of the spirit that must be used or else it will be taken and given unto another. 

HOLINESS INCLUDES THE TONGUE

Holiness is necessary for power, as has already been shared in several literatures. And holiness is not complete until it has also taken possession of the tongue. “But as he which hath called you is holy, so be ye holy IN ALL MANNER OF CONVERSATION.” (I Peter 1:15).

I beseech you brethren, for the sake of the lost and suffering who will never find deliverance, UNLESS YOU MAKE YOURSELF READY TO TAKE IT TO THEM, give this matter your prayerful consideration. Consecrate yourself to God afresh. Present to him YOUR BODY, a living sacrifice, AND DO NOT FORGET NOR NEGLECT TO INCLUDE YOUR TONGUE, YOUR LIPS, and YOUR VOICE!” Let your speech be always with grace, seasoned with salt.” (Colossians 4:6).

“Keep that which is committed to thy trust (the power to speak in God’s stead, and bring deliverance), avoiding profane (not holy) and vain (empty, worthless) babbling.” (I Timothy 6:20).

It is my prayer that all who read this message will put all on the altar, and get in a place where they can carry a burden for the lost and suffering: that they will cast aside ALL those things which hinder the power of God in their lives. God can go on without you. But if YOU go with God, you must go His way. Put foolishness aside NOW! Get out of the eddy and into the stream of God’s power.

The PROMISES are for you, if you will only believe them, meet God’s conditions, and PAY THE PRICE.

TOO MANY WORDS!

The reason so many Christians speak so many idle words, is that they speak SO MANY WORDS! They talk so much that they have no time to think, and no time to listen to the voice of God. Foolish words come so easily. We do not even have to think of them. We can listen to any conversation, anywhere and come away with a large supply of them which can be produced by repetition. The spirit of the age is an ever increasing spirit of levity, which makes serious thinking difficult for both sinner and saint. It is typified by the oft repeated saying, “Don’t take life too seriously. After all you’ll never get out of it alive.” In such an age it takes real effort and consecration to “Study to be quiet,” and to wait before God long enough to have words to speak which are the words of God, and which can have power. But the wise man will do it. “He that hath knowledge, spareth his words.” (Proverbs 17:27). “But the mouths of fools FEEDETH ON FOOLISHNESS.” (Proverbs 15:14). “In the multitude of words there wanteth not sin.” (Proverbs 10:19). “A fool’s voice is known by MULTITUDE OF WORDS.” (Ecclesiastes 5:3).

Sex - For Good or For Evil? Pt 2

What are the seven virtues you can have by dealing with desire for unneeded sex? Virtue is moral practice or action, moral excellence, rectitude, chastity. The seven virtues are: Prudence, Fortitude, Temperance, Justice, Faith, Hope and Charity. 

1) Prudence – This is the ability to govern and discipline oneself by the exercise of reason. 

2) Fortitude – Strength of mind that enables a person to encounter danger or pain with courage.

Sex – For Good or for Evil? Pt 1.

Each human being has the power to choose whether he will use the tremendous power of sex for good or for evil. Each human being must contend with the problem that will arise in his or her life because of sex. You can transmute sex into virtue or vice. One of Gods greatest gift to mankind is the power to procreate human being. Sex is the means of procreation. It is power, and like all powers, it can be used for good or evil. Sex is a physical function of the body under the control of the subconscious and conscious mind.  It is inherited. The physical sex organs, work of God like all His creations are good. The little difference that makes